Monday, April 16, 2012
Shailey Tripp's Blog Going Silent
Take a few days to wrap up the income tax and enjoy having company for the weekend and look what happens! A small earthquake hits Palinland.
I'm as surprised as anyone that Shailey Tripp is going to close her blog, yet, having digested the news, I see it is the next reasonable move in her progress toward making healthy choices and improving stability for her children. Many, maybe even most of us, know that being a mom to young children is a demanding, 24-hour job. In Shailey’s case, “demanding” is magnified by the children's disabilities. I would not even try to imagine what added stresses, costs, and care that involves.
Combine the full-time job of childcare with another full-time job - looking for work. Looking for work is also mentally and emotionally taxing. In this economy there are plenty of people who can tell us about that. None except the insane among them would want the same Google problem as Shailey Tripp. Looking for work when “PROSTITUTE” comes up next to your name in all the search engines is another thing that is beyond my imagination. In this century, we have to expect a vetting by potential employers. Human Resources professionals checking out Shailey Tripp find more than the usual number of hits. Some of them can be sourced back to me.
For one year, Shay has faithfully carried the additional and voluntary responsibility to check her blog, answer questions, delete the garbage left by bullies and a$$holes, find something interesting to write about, and write it in an interesting way – that I understand. And drawing it to a close is not a sign that she's been less than honest. Though it takes time away from other things, blogging can feel really, really good. Shailey spent a lot of time building her blog and it served as an outlet for her message. She was generous with other bloggers and shared her stories, not keeping everything to herself. Strangers commenting and building a community, some giving a cheer, some challengers, and the useful ones who take time to correct you and each other - all making your blog their place, too. Shay put in the work to maintain it. Blogging is not for the faint of heart, it's on your mind every day, and tugs at you like a little child wanting to be picked up. You love it, even when your arms are tired.
In one way, Shay was lucky because she had a ready made audience. But that wasn't always lucky. That audience came with lots of assumptions. The only other blogger I can think of to compare that to in Palinland is Mercede Johnston who, when she started to blog, also had a ready made audience who came with assumptions. But those two bloggers were different in approach and maturity and dedication for readership. Mercede posted sporadically for a while and disappeared without the courtesy of an explanation, while Shailey worked at her blog, made herself available every Friday for a full year to answer our questions. She didn't want to stop blogging just to walk away, I'm very sure of that. She is stopping in order to strengthen other areas of her life and she's provided a week’s notice that she has decided to step away.
I may be surprised, but I’m not disappointed, and I don't feel like I'm owed anything. We have been very lucky to have heard her story in her voice, to have seen documentation, and to have been invited to ask questions. She published a book, named names, and if we chose to, we can share that book with others. Talk about someone who took one for the team! Yay Shay!
The fight will continue. Shailey herself will land more punches. She doesn't need to blog to do that. Todd and Sarah Palin may think they've knocked her out, or at the least, thing they won this round. They didn’t. The bell rang, and Shailey is catching her breath. She’s being given advice, she’s being tended to by the experts, she's toweling down and concentrating on what she needs to do to be strong when the bell rings again.
Just like the rest of us, Shailey needs to take care of herself, find a good job - one where she uses her brain. She needs good health insurance for herself and her kids. When she finds that sense of security; her kids will sense it, too. I can't begrudge her any of those things. If she wants to put out a message through this blog once in a while, she will be welcome here. If she wants to let us know that the next round is about to begin, that would be great. We'll be here to cheer when the bell rings again and she's ready to go another round, be it in court, in print, or in an interview.
Like I said, Shailey has not been knocked out by the Palins, the Anchorage Police, or the National Enquirer. She's taking a break between the rounds. The referee may be crooked, but she’s still going to fight. And in order to last through to the last round, she needs to make the most of this time out. Put things in order. I'm going to quietly let her do that.